Who Are You Becoming?

Mid-year is not just a checkpoint; it’s a pivot point.

You’ve likely spent the first half of 2025 moving through goals, routines, and responsibilities that made sense back in January. But now, something may feel different. The goals that once felt exciting might now feel misaligned. You might be sensing a quiet shift inside. Perhaps a desire to move in a slightly different direction, even if you can’t quite explain why yet.

It’s a sign that it’s time to ask a different question. Not “What do I need to do next?” but rather “Who am I becoming?”

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What Your Past Goals Say About Your Past Self

Let’s be honest. Most of us set goals based on who we were, not who we’re becoming.

When you look back at the goals you wrote down, or vaguely envisioned, at the start of 2025, what do they reveal about your past self? Maybe they reflect:

A need for structure after a chaotic season,

A desire to prove something to yourself (or others), or

A version of success shaped by someone else’s expectations.

There’s nothing wrong with that. Your past goals served you in that season. But if they no longer feel energizing or aligned, it may be time to reshape them into something that fits who you are now.

Redirecting your path is a journey towards your goal, too.

Signs Your Sense of Self is Shifting

Growth doesn’t always announce itself with clarity. It often shows up as restlessness, boredom, or discomfort with things that used to feel fine.

Here are a few subtle signs that your sense of self might be evolving:

You feel unmotivated by goals you used to chase.

You’re craving different types of connection or work.

You’ve developed new habits, perspectives, or boundaries.

You’re less concerned with what others think and more focused on what feels right.

This is a natural (and necessary) part of becoming. It’s about integrating new layers of insight, growth, and experience into how you live and lead. When your sense of self shifts, your goals should, too. If not, you risk outgrowing your own life.

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Journal Prompts to Define Your Becoming

So, who are you becoming in the rest of 2025?

That’s not an easy question to answer in one sitting. But journaling can help you get closer. Not by forcing clarity, but by noticing patterns in your thoughts and emotions.

Here are 5 reflective prompts to explore for the rest of the year:

What qualities or values have become more important to me recently?
(Think: peace, purpose, independence, creativity, rest)

What kind of person do I want to show up as? Whether at work, in relationships, and with myself.

What am I no longer willing to tolerate or perform for?

How does the “next version” of me spend their time, energy, and attention?

If I chose a theme or word for the second half of this year, what would it be and why?

Try sitting with one question at a time. All you need is a pattern to follow. You’re not trying to perfect yourself. You’re learning to meet yourself, again and again, as you evolve.

About Our Author

Yanitrasari Widyastuti is a mental health therapist and wellness consultant with a background in psychology and counselling, dedicated to empowering others on their journey to well-being. She believes in the power of empathy to inspire self-discovery and growth. Based in Jakarta, Indonesia, she begins her day with a morning walk to her favorite spot for coffee, embracing small rituals that ground her in the present.